Posts Tagged ‘Mind’

Mastering Abundance and Prosperity Mindset Part 2

06 Dec

Mastering Abundance and Prosperity Mindset Part 2One of the most fantastic pieces of scientific research (reported on in Dr Joe Dispenza’s book Evolve Your Brain) is not only that cells which “Fire together will wire together” but the opposite, being – “if cells are not fired they drop away”.

Mind Ability and Research

This means that if the brain is being focussed on building new neural pathways of abundance and prosperity then gradually those neural pathways which are the negative habits – fears, doubts etc, that are not being fired – will lose their strength and eventually drop away. This means the old negative habit is no longer in control and the new positive habits have taken over. So your inner subconscious reality is now the same as your conscious reality – together they work towards achieving your goal.

A good statement is “Energy Flows Where Energy Goes” – it is particularly apt when working with goals which include dropping negative habits. Have you heard that “a habit is when the body has taken over from the mind”. Think about it for a moment! You never “think about carrying out a habit – you just do it!” Your body is doing it automatically with no thought involved. If your thoughts are “I am not worthy or don’t deserve prosperity” then your body will immediately carry out acts that will sabotage prosperity no matter if your conscious goal contains the words “I deserve prosperity”. You see, your subconscious mind hasn’t got the the new goal yet – the neural pathway has not yet been formed; thus the subconscious sabotage – action by the body – takes over.

The Power of Attention

Wikipedia explains Hebbian Learning  as “associative learning”, in which simultaneous activation of cells leads to pronounced increases in synaptic strength between those cells. Hebbian theory is a scientific theory in biological neuroscience (synaptic plasticity) which explains the adaptation of neurons in the brain during the learning process.

Said more simply by John Assaraf “your attention plays a large role in directing the flow of energy and information in your brain. And as energy flows where your attention habitually goes, the synaptic connections energized by your habitual attention eventually become more or less chemically hardwired into your neural networks.”

The Power of Attention (what we say, how we act, how we emotionalise, our self talk, what we think, what we visualise) is paramount. Remember Earl Nightingale – The Dean Of Personal Development? He stated in his book “You become what you think about most.”

The Correct Vision is Paramount

 “Financial Wealth” has gradually been altered to “abundance and prosperity”.  After all if you are abundant in things such as health, love, relationships, money, happiness and more, then it means you have enough and don’t need any more.

The correct vision helps you to stay focused and positive. Here are some questions to answer (there are no correct answers) to help you find the right vision and to help identify mental blocks:

What brings you the most joy, fulfilment and freedom?
If you had all the time and money you could want and had no fear, what would you do?
What significant contribution do you offer?
What does abundance and prosperity mean to you?
Why do you want abundance and prosperity?
What will abundance and prosperity do for you?
Are you abundant and prosperous within yourself?
Do you deserve abundance and prosperity?
Do you or can you see yourself as abundant and prosperous?

The CHI Seminar And More On Life Purpose

The “Creating Happiness Intentionally” – CHI – is a “live in” Seminar held over 5 days and 4 nights. One of the main purposes is to create, and know it’s right for you, a Life’s Purpose Statement. It is all allied with Abundance and Prosperity and when you consider everything that is important in your life (including blocks and your own life traumas) it can not be done satisfactorily in under 5 days. This MMN deals with a part of it – namely Abundance and Prosperity, however there is always some crossover. After all, as the Cheshire cat says to Alice as she asks for directions in Wonderland, ‘If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there’. It is essential to know where you’re headed otherwise how will you know when you get there? Hence a Vision or A Life Purpose Statement.

John Assaraf works in the Personal Development field and talks about “Vision” this way: “Many ‘successful’ people still feel empty. They have the outer riches, but not the inner ones.

The movie, ‘Bedazzled’, comically illustrates this point when the main character repeatedly receives his wildest wishes, but he still feels frustrated and disappointed. This is our inner child speaking: a tiny little ego shaped by cultural norms and childhood fantasies.

Heart desires, on the other hand, express our deepest truths and passions. They express a fervour so powerful and invigorating that their fulfilment becomes more a matter of glorious obsession rather than ‘work’ or ‘striving.’

In fact, it’s the profound emotional weight and meaning of such a vision that can transform us in the NOW, making us happy NOW rather than hoping we’ll become happy when we reach that elusive ‘financial success’ we believe will finally make us happy.”

Mastering Abundance and Prosperity Mindset Part 2

If You Desire To Change Your Financial Paradigm

Then you may need to:

  • Make decisions about yourself, your business and your finances,
  • Clearly define your goals,
  • Observe your thoughts, habits and beliefs at all times when awake,
  • Keep notes about things not serving you,
  • Replace negative neural pathways with ones that serve you,
  • Consciously focus on positive empowering thoughts,
  • Resolve to change your conscious and subconscious negativity.

What Must You Do To Achieve Success

The great thing about this is that you have some assistance. Science itself has overwhelming proof that you can rewire your brain. This means you can, with specific methods which will be shown in two CDs or downloads, build and strengthen neural pathways which control all your financial decisions and executive thinking. Both your conscious and subconscious mind will be on the same track. You will increase your Financial Self Image which may have been holding you back (you can never outperform it).  Here is a list of “musts”:

  • What will achieving your Prosperity and Abundance Goals do for you? You can achieve these goals using the 8 step goal system which includes building and using your Emotional Anchor.  You move from just “setting the goal” to building a neural pathway which helps you to achieve your goals. You plant the goal within the subconscious mind and this builds a neural pathway. You can do this because the subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between imagination and reality. All this is done whilst you are in the stress releasing brain wave state of Alpha.
  • Use visualization to your advantage by imagining yourself (using your 5 senses and self-talk) living the life you deserve and care to live – stress-free and financially abundant.
  • Retrain your brain to rid yourself of neural pathways that hold you back (your behaviours, limiting beliefs and negative habits) and cultivate new neural pathways that increase Prosperity and Abundance.
  • You banish self-doubt and step into your strength.
  • When will your habits stop working against you? When you have new habits, through constructing new neural pathways in your mind. With repetition, visualization, self-talk and emotion – all applied in the alpha and theta brainwave states you achieve this. When your conscious mind is aligned with (on track with) your subconscious mind, you attract the success you deserve.

Some Spiritual Aspects To Think About

There is enough for all – so an attitude of gratitude is in harmony with  infinite supply. Thanking Spirit, the Universe, God or whoever you thank for the abundance in your life, for your experiences and the people in your life is a great start.

With the act of letting go your blocks, negative habits or limiting beliefs you make space not only to receive but the joyful act of giving is a corollary.

We have many challenges in life. Why are they sent to us? To learn from – these awarenesses are “lessons for our soul”. So don’t fight or become a victim of your life’s challenges – a great attitude is to embrace them while you learn from them. You can go through them.

John Roger – a Spiritual Teacher and founder of says “When you go out in the world to ‘get’ things, you are operating from lack. You are saying ‘I don’t have this within me, so I have to find someone to give it to me’. If you know that you are the source, you would not operate from lack”.

So, whilst attitude, Life Purpose and goals are all important on your journey towards Abundance and Prosperity, remember, for whatever wealth goals you are setting yourself you add the words ‘for the Highest Good of all concerned’. Once again it is a Spiritual concept which is self explanatory.

All the best


“Your gift from God is your potential – Your gift to God is to use it.”

PS The Wealth Pack (including explanation, goals and meditations) is available to buy from the CALM Shop both as a download and also as two CDs.

The Next Seminar is Creating Happiness Intentionally. 

BALI CHI Seminar. If you know your Life’s Purpose and you work towards it, being GOAL directed, then you will only have success in Creating Happiness for yourself. Have a look at, do the exercises, read the testimonials and then book for the next one in Bali or in Sydney. Remember for repeaters it is half price!


Enlightenment Regarding Depression

15 Nov

Enlightenment Regarding DepressionThis is my third Mind Matters News (MMN) about this vexing issue of Depression and the Mental Health Issue. I personally have learnt so much and following the interest that has been displayed by the recipients of the MMN I thought it best to summarize what I have learned.

The information available is truly enlightening. So the format of this MMN is to quote some information (that I have selected from links) to just whet your appetite so that you will be able to receive much more clarity at the link itself.

Depression Is Not An Illness

The most profound article I have read is written by Philip Hickey, Ph.D. who is (in his own words)  “I am a licensed psychologist, presently retired.  I have worked in clinical and managerial positions in the mental health, corrections, and addictions fields in the United States and England”.

Dr Hickey says many things in this article which back up the tools and techniques that are taught with the CALM System and I believe really extollhope! Here are some extracts:

“….. depression is an adaptive mechanism which has served the species well for millions of years.  When things are going well in our lives, we feel good.  This good feeling is nature’s way of telling us to keep doing what we’re doing.  When our lives are not going well, we feel down or depressed.  This is nature’s way of telling us to make some changes.”

“In order to feel good, the following seven factors must be present in our lives:

  • - good nutrition
  • - fresh air
  • - sunshine
  • - physical activity
  • - purposeful activity
  • - good relationships
  • - adequate and regular sleep”

“…. it is worth noting that all human lives are, sooner or later, touched by major tragic losses.  What matters is:  how equipped are we, in habits and lifestyle, to handle these losses.  When a person goes to a mental health center and asks for help with depression, the first priority should be a detailed assessment of the person’s lifestyle, habits, relationships, history, etc., to determine the source of the depressive feelings”

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Suicide and “Mental Illness”

“The draft Roadmap gives scant regard to suicide. Suicide and ‘mental illness’ –are peas in the same pod but they cannot be understood when defined by the flawed medical model.

“Australia has been involved in the Afghan war for 10 years and we have recently learnt of the 33rd soldier’s death.  This has caused a great outpouring of Government and media attention and rightly so.  However, during the same 10 year period it is estimated that somewhere between 22,000 and 25,000 Australian men (just men) have killed themselves, that is, committed suicide.  Just the number of men killing themselves is currently double the combined national road toll.  The greatest single cause of death for Australians under the age of 55 years is suicide. Last year it was thought to be 6 each day, now it is thought to be closer to 7.

“We have become so frightened of this reality; we run away, divert ourselves, anesthetise ourselves and avoid thinking, talking or taking responsibility for this disastrous situation.  Governments and the medical profession are paralysed.

Source: ”Excerpt from Rob Walter’s reply to the government’s draft Ten Year Roadmap for National Mental Health ReformPoint 26. Do you have any other comments on the draft Roadmap you would like to make?”

Antidepressants Cause Suicide and Violence in Soldiers

“Death by suicide is at record levels in the armed services. Simultaneously the use of antidepressant drugs is also at record levels, including brand names like Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil, Celexa and Lexapro.

“According to the army, in 2007 17% of combat troops in Afghanistan were taking prescription antidepressants or sleeping pills. Inside sources have given me an even bleaker picture: During Vietnam, a mere 1% of our troops were taking prescribed psychiatric drugs. By contrast, in the past year one-third of marines in combat zones were taking psychiatric drugs.

“Are the pills helping? The army confirms that since 2002 the number of suicide attempts has increased six-fold. And more than 128 soldiers killed themselves last year.”

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The National Institute Of Mental Health : Where to From Here?

The article highlights “the unprecedented reduction in the pharmaceutical industry’s research and development programs for psychiatric medications.”

“For NIMH, the problem is clear. Research over the past decade has shown that our current medications are not good enough. Industry has had blockbusters but very few breakthroughs in the past forty years. There was always hope that the billions of dollars invested in this area by the pharmaceutical industry would result in more effective treatments for our most disabling disorders. Now, however, we face the possibility that there will be no “next generation” of mental disorder treatments emerging from industry.”

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A Comment from Kate – a MMN subscriber

“I believe that mental health is in an even worse state than your newsletter implies.  The link below is to an article I read recently and was shocked – it is not an Australian article but it gives damning evidence as to the efficacy (or lack thereof) and potential harm that can be done by anti-depressants.  It is a detailed book review of three different books which may be of use.”

An Epidemic Of Mental Illness: Why?

The 3 books are listed below. We have talked about 2 of them in recent MMN.

The Emperor’s New Drugs: Exploding the Antidepressant Myth
by Irving Kirsch 

Anatomy of an Epidemic: Magic Bullets, Psychiatric Drugs, and the Astonishing Rise of Mental Illness in America
by Robert Whitaker 

Unhinged: The Trouble With Psychiatry—A Doctor’s Revelations About a Profession in Crisis
by Daniel Carlat 

Book Blaming the brain, truth about drugs and mental health!

“Now, in Blaming the Brain he exposes the many weaknesses inherent in the scientific arguments supporting the widely accepted theory that biochemical imbalances are the main cause of mental illness. Valenstein reveals how, beginning in the 1950s, the accidental discovery of a few mood-altering drugs stimulated an enormous interest in psychopharmacology, resulting in staggering growth and profits for the pharmaceutical industry.”

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Enlightenment Regarding DepressionClosing Comment

This issue is not going to go away, and indeed looks as though it is heading in the wrong direction. Although most of the articles and quotes are sourced from USA we know that the pharmacological approach is alive and well in Australia. I personally believe there are alternatives and sometimes – for possibly limited times – the pharmacological approach is required and I would always say ‘together with “other” approaches’.  I have done three MMN on the topic of Depression and will now “move on.”

So John, are there recommendations that I would make? Certainly! The main one is that it is always a healthy approach to take action oneself – not to “just have things done to or for you”! Take responsibility for yourself and be involved in your own therapy program. Specifically I would say use the CALM techniques for developing a habit of positive self talk, do goals, have purpose, relax quickly and meditate. I can be more specific if you wish to drop me an email.

All the best

Sandy MacGregor

“Your gift from God is your potential – Your gift to God is to use it.”


Improve Concentration

04 Oct

Learn about how to improve focused concentration and the process of how your thoughts become distracted.

What is the reasons people seek to improve concentration?

We have all heard something go bump in the night and found that with little effort, all our senses become quiet and perfectly trained on finding the source of that sound.

Or we have read a good book or seen a good movie and a time of two hours “seemed” to take only fifteen minutes! On the other hand, we may have sat down to concentrate on some important work, only to find that our mind is continually interrupted by irrelevant and distracting thoughts. Thoughts such as “Do I need to phone so and so?”, “Have I paid that bill?” or “What shall I have for lunch?” This seems to happen despite our desire for it not to occur! Why does this happen?

Concepts Of Distracted Thought

Scientists have classed brain activity into four states. Beta(doing state), Alpha (single focused concentration and learning state), Theta(creativity, healing and meditation state), and Delta(deep sleep and physical regeneration state).

As well, your mind has two parts, each with separate functions. There is theconscious part, which is 12% of our mind, and the subconscious part, which is the other 88%. The conscious mind is the one we readily identify with. It is our “doing action state”. It is what we use to perceive the world and to make decisions such as “I need to find my keys”.

Sub conscious mindThe subconscious mind is responsible for storing our memory (“I left my keys on the kitchen bench”), beliefs and habits, self-image and personality. It also controls our bodily functions – notice you don’t have to consciously think about doing these things.

When we are functioning with our normal conscious awareness (thinking of many things at once), we are in the Beta state. In this state you can think of up to 9 things at a time – it is also the state where we take on stress. This level of thinking and working forms a very large part of our everyday behaviour.

We also train our subconscious mind to support that behavior by automatically reminding us of things that we have previously thought to be important. When the conscious mind attempts to change its awareness to single focused concentration (or the Alpha state), it immediately has to battle the existing subconscious habit of multiple thinking (Beta state). When you try to sit down and concentrate on one thing, the subconscious mind will interfere with your efforts by bringing different thoughts to your attention.

How Do You Develop Single Focused Concentration?

To develop effective single focused concentration, you need an easy and proven method of training yourself, as well as sufficient practise, so that the ability to focus becomes a new habit.

In the Life Skills Seminar you learn to concentrate by:

  1. Gaining a complete scientific explanation on how the mind works.
  2. Learning a fast way of reaching the Alpha Brain wave state.
  3. Learning an effective method to achieve single focused concentration.
  4. Biofeedback from an electroencephalograph to ensure that you can do it correctly.

Creativity is a Skill that can be Developed

27 Sep

Creativity is a Skill that can be DevelopedCreativity is such a diverse word and can have a whole spectrum of meaning. There is the sheer joy of the feeling of achievement of having created something – no matter in what field.

A dressmaker feels it after creating from scratch a new outfit; a musician, author, artist, chef, sports person, a reader …. Even if you’re not on the world’s stage but just creating in your own home or office.

Creativity is a skill, like riding a bicycle or operating a computer, that can be learned and developed with practice.
In the work place There seems to be a direct relationship between the quantity of new ideas that you generate in your work, and the level of success that you achieve. I think that if you improve the quality of your thinking, you improve the quality of your life.

Some of the ideas below which can be implemented right now, are more appropriate to a company or work situation, but nevertheless may be of interest to individual application.

Thoughts You Can Use to Expand Your Creativity

Every single idea that improves the way we live and work, in large or small ways, is an act of creativity.

In his/her line of sight, each average worker sees improvements that can be made and Successful companies encourage a steady flow of suggestions and ideas for improving the way the work is done. Small incremental improvements to cut costs, increase quality, boost customer satisfaction, etc., can translate into huge increases in profitability.

Happy, valued and appropriately rewarded employees and executives are more creative. People can have a natural tendency to resist new ideas but it can help with creativity to move out of your Comfort Zone and sometimes take some calculated risks and be open to new ways of doing things. Optimism, cheerfulness, positive expectancy and laughter can all trigger creativity.

1. Three Triggers to Creativity

Creativity is a Skill that can be DevelopedNormal creativity is stimulated by three things:
a. Intensely desired goals. Intense emotion of any kind is a stimulant or trigger to creativity. The more you want something, the more likely it is you will find creative ways to accomplish it. What are your most intensely desired goals?
b. Pressing problems. What are the most pressing problems facing you at this time?
c. Focused questions. The more precise and focused the questions, the more rapidly the creative reflex operates to generate workable answers – not sure about this one.

2. Problem Solving Made Simple

Any organised method of problem solving can be more effective in generating higher-quality solutions than no method at all. Here are seven steps you can follow:
a. Define the problem clearly—in writing.
b. Read; research; gather information; get the facts. Many problems exist simply because no one has gathered sufficient information about them.
c. Discuss the problem with others; ask questions of informed people; consult experts and others who may have had a similar problem in the past.
d. Try consciously to solve the problem. Consider every possible alternative.
e. If you still have not found a solution, turn the problem over to your subconscious mind, and get your conscious mind busy elsewhere.
f. Review the problem just before sleeping, and ask your subconscious for a solution.
g. Be prepared to write down the answer and act on it when it appears.

3. Brainstorming

Brainstorming can be a powerful and effective way to solve problems and achieve goals – a way of using focused questions for concentrating the power of your mind.
a. Write your most pressing problem or most keenly desired goals at the top of a page in the form of a clear question (for example, “What can we do to increase our sales by 20 percent in the next 90 days?”)
b. Force yourself to write 20 answers to the question, without stopping. (If you haven’t done this before, it could be difficult at first.)
c. Review the answers, and select at least one for implementation immediately.
d. The more you practice this method, the more creative and alert you will become.

4. Questioning to Stimulate Creativity

The creative mind is stimulated and triggered into action by focused questions. The more questions you ask, and the better they are, the more accurate and creative will be your thinking. Some examples:
a. What are you trying to do?
b. How are you trying to do it?
c. What result or outcome do you desire?
d. How could you approach it? Is there a better way?
e. What are your assumptions?
f. Could they be wrong?

5. Developing the Qualities of Genius

a. They have the ability to concentrate single-mindedly, 100 percent, on one thing, to the exclusion of all distractions.
One method: Write down every detail of the problem you are working on right now. “Swarm all over it.” Focus totally on solving your most important problem.
b. They have the ability to see the big picture. They remain open-minded flexible, almost childlike in examining every possible way of approaching a problem.
c. They take a systematic, orderly approach to solving each problem. They ask questions such as: Why? Why not? Why not this way? Could there be another way? They have the ability to suspend judgment and to avoid becoming attached to, or enamoured of, their own idea.

Creativity is a Skill that can be Developed6. Mind-Stimulating Exercises

Here are some key questions to stimulate your creativity:
a. What are your three most important goals in life right now?
b. What are your three most pressing problems right now?
c. Describe the ideal outcome you desire from a problem facing you right now.
d. What one thing would you dare to attempt if you knew you could not fail?

7. Identifying Key Obstacles

Creativity must be focused on removing the most important obstacle to your success.
a. What is the major obstacle that stands between you and your major goal right now?
b. What could you do right now to be removing it?
c. In every process, there is a “limiting step” that determines the speed at which the goal will be accomplished. What is the limiting step in your work?

8. Using the Subconscious Mind to Tap Your Creativity

Well – you know what I believe – yes – the deliberate use of the Subconscious mind – the other 88% of the mind. I have a meditation process called “Tapping Your Creativity” which is available as a CD here or available as an immediate download. I encourage you to read the success stories below.

Two Quick Stories

R. Buckminster Fuller was a man of many talents – he is considered as one of the greatest innovators of the 20th century. His entire adult life was spent as an inventor – practical, inexpensive shelter and transportation, engineer, architect – the best known creation in this field is the geodesic dome – poet, and star-gazer. Most importantly, “Bucky,” as his friends referred to him, was a creative thinker. He was responsible for the invention, development, and implementation of over 170 patented ideas. He published more than 30 books and made fifty-seven trips around the world sharing his abundant supply of ideas with others. As a young, nonconforming student, Fuller was expelled from Harvard in his freshman year. His enthusiasm and creativity remained undampened. Fuller would often spend up to 22 hours a day studying math, architecture, and physics.

His self-acquired knowledge, combined with his creative ideas, made him a man ahead of his time and a leading innovator.

Murray Spangler developed a mindset similar to Bucky Fuller’s. As a department store janitor, Spangler suffered considerable discomfort from the dust his broom stirred up. The wheezing and coughing prompted him to find an unconventional way to clean floors. “Why not eliminate the sweeping,” he thought, “and suck up the dust instead.” His friend, H.W. Hoover, financed the first awkward but functional vacuum cleaner. Spangler’s futuristic, uncluttered thinking allowed him to overcome personal discomfort and go beyond conventional thinking.

So, know that Creativity is a skill that can be developed. I have used the CD I spoke about in number 8 above to come up with all my product including seminars, books, CDs, DVDs and Packs – it was like the ideas kept coming by deliberately using the subconscious mind!

All the best



“Your gift from God is your potential – Your gift to God is to use it.”



Meditation and the Mind-Body Connection

23 Aug

Most people have heard of some medical people extolling the virtues of meditation to assist with healing and health. I have previously mentioned Dr Bernie Segal in the USA who facilitates meditation groups as an adjunct to help people heal themselves of cancer and has written several books. Of course there are no guarantees in life …

… but using the power of meditation (here is a link to the 3 Hour Meditation Seminar on 2 DVDs at an especially reduced price) and our own mind is certainly powerful and worth tapping into not only for healing assistance but for inner peace and handling many of life’s challenges and issues.

Many Australians would have heard of the wonderful neurosurgeon we have here in Australia … Dr Charlie Teo.  Indeed Dr Teo has done much work in USA so possibly many Americans have also heard of him.  In fact people from all over the world seek out Dr Teo to operate on them if they happen to have the misfortune to develop brain cancer.
Dr Charlie Teo – the worlds most famous Neuro Surgeon 
A friend loaned me a book about Dr Charlie Teo, and in particular one of his patients, and the book is called “Life in His Hands” by Susan Wyndham.  Here is an excerpt from Chapter 10 titled  – Twenty-six Hours (on Pages 84 and 85).

Many times he has said, in slightly different ways, ‘I have realised the power of the mind is incredibly important to your general wellbeing and the ability of the human body to fight disease.  I don’t know why doctors find this so hard to accept but they do.  I think a lot of patients have done well not because I’ve operated on them, but because I’ve offered them hope and I’ve given them something to be positive about.  It can’t just be the surgery because anybody can do the surgery I do.  They all leave in a very positive frame of mind: “We’re going to beat this.”  I encourage that and I nurture it and I think it’s instrumental.  I think I have gained more understanding of the mind and the power of the mind not through looking at the brain, but through the dealings with my patients.’

Charlie’s holistic philosophy is simple, logical and refreshing, but many doctors still find it unprofessional.  He encourages his patients to exercise, follow a healthy diet, meditate, remain positive and, if they have religious beliefs, to pray.  He also recommends surgery, sometimes repeatedly over many years, on tumours that others have declared inoperable or the operation pointless because the patient was going to die anyway.

Critics in the profession say Charlie gives false hope to hopeless cases with his pep talks and rush to operate.  He argues that those surgeons often abandon patients when it is possible to save some and give many others more time, comfort and support.  He makes it clear that a malignant tumour will ultimately prove fatal but that is no reason not to fight.

‘While there’s quality of life, there’s hope,’ he says.  If people aren’t willing to die, I will certainly not condemn them to a death sentence.  People I’ve operated on that really should have died within six months, a lot of them are still alive and a lot survived two, three, four years.  If you can give someone six months extra … who knows?  The cure might be right around the corner.

‘You tell people that their tumour could come back and if they want to absorb it, fine, but try not to focus on that.  Focus on the fact that some people live and some people live a long time and why don’t you just pretend you’re that person?  If you’re going to be one of the people who lives four years instead of six months, wouldn’t it be terrible to live those four years thinking, “Shit, I’m going to die next week,” and four years comes up and you’ve wasted the time dying rather than living?’

More Words of Wisdom – Dr Charlie Teo

Dr Teo is one of a growing handful of doctors who now suggest that amongst other things, meditation and positive thought could be beneficial in a person’s healing and  that meditation probably helps to boost the immune system.

Dr Charlie Teo is the Founder of the Cure for Life Foundation and for some years he offered his services pro bono to people in developing nations who would otherwise have had no hope at all. He lives by the principle that a doctor should always treat his patients as he would a member of his own family.  What a wonderful man! You can find out much more about Dr Teo’s work and background by googling him.  When you do so you will also discover that Dr Teo urges people to move clock radios to the foot of their bed,  turn off electric blankets before getting into bed, use hands free for mobile phone use and wait until the microwave stops beeping before opening the door.  Dr Teo also suggests that some hair dyes, particularly red, may also be best avoided.  He modifies his advice  with the proviso that all these may just be catalysts for those who may have a predisposition or genetic aberration towards developing cancer.  D r Teo also states that some of these claims are based on his gut feeling more than on any medical or scientific knowledge and he intuitively feels they may be best avoided.

Dr Esther Sternberg and Mind Body Interaction

Only this week the name of another internationally recognised doctor came to my attention.  A member of my family told me they heard Dr Esther Sternberg being interviewed on radio by Margaret Throsby … whom you may remember was the very first person in the media to interview me when I first went public with my own story over 20 years ago.

Dr Sternberg is internationally recognized for her discoveries of the mind-body interaction in illness and healing, including immune system interactions and the brain’s stress response in susceptibility to arthritis and other diseases, including depression. Here is a link to my CD Moving Through Depression Meditation or here is the same meditation as an Instant Download. She has written books on this subject and if you google her name you will be able to read more about this amazing woman.

There is apparently a DVD available called “The Science of Healing with Dr Esther Sternberg”  and as her personal journey unfolds she reveals more about the scientific basis of the mind-body connection, and the role of environment and emotion in the healing process. She also reveals research that shows some of the ways the brain helps us heal, both emotionally and physically for each of us to be able to create an inner place of peace.

Dr Norman Doige and Neuro Plasticity
I have  told you about Dr Norman Doidge and his amazing book “The Brain that Changes itself”  in two previous MMN Reports and today he is almost a household name.  You can look back at these two reports at these links: More on The Remarkable Brain – Part 1 and
So John, we are living in exciting times. Just ponder what else may be discovered with the prediction that with the successful isolation of the 6 million proteins in the body we will be able to cure all illnesses. I urge you to find out more about the subconscious mind by doing one of 3 things (or all three of course):
1. Attend a CALM Life Skills Seminar on 20/21 Nov 2010
2. Attend a CHI (Life Purpose Seminar) in Feb or Jun 2011
3. Spread the awareness and teach others by becoming an Independant Credentialled CALM Coach by attending the Train The Presenter from 20 – 24 Nov 2010.
All the Best



Reflection Time and Stress Release

14 Aug

Reflection Time and Stress ReleaseRush, rush …. Hurry, hurry ….. Job Stress! Work Stress! Bank Stress! Money Stress! Children Stress! Education Stress! Is this how life seems for you sometimes – will stress never end? Too many demands on your time and your brain is probably on overdrive. How can we slow down and smell the proverbial roses. Meditation is the key and once you become a devotee I guarantee it will change your life for the better. I’ve said before, and many have proven it to be true, that the benefits of even a short time meditating each day are cumulative – the more you do it the better you will feel, and the easier it will become.

The only way to “do it wrong” is not to do it at all. Once it becomes a habit, you will find that if you don’t take the time to do it each day you will feel as though something is missing or as though you have walked out the front door without combing your hair or brushing your teeth.

Meditation re-establishes our inner peace and harmony Often our minds are so busy that finding an escape from the constant mind activity, through meditation, is liberating and can be likened to recharging our inner battery.

Just a few seconds or 20 minutes at a time

Reflection Time and Stress ReleaseYou will find that during the day there will be many small opportunities to still the mind by going to your “Peaceful Place”, for example in the bathroom, under the shower, waiting on the phone, at the doctors, mowing the lawn, doing the ironing. Take advantage of these small windows of time throughout the day to still your mind. Make it a part of your normal daily practice.

Also seek and find larger periods of time to give yourself the luxury of a longer period of meditation. I find that mornings work well for me so you may also like to try getting up 20 minutes (or more) earlier than you usually would and using this time to meditate. When added together, all these times of meditation will be hugely beneficial. Meditation has been proven to have many health benefits.

It won’t be possible to completely eradicate all stress from our lives but by being able to handle stress using meditation to still the mind and focus on anything we want we will feel less overwhelmed by stress. This is the magic of Active Meditation – you can be doing a meditation on Healing or Pain Release or Creativity and you will also be releasing stress! Act now …. each day of your life counts.

Lucius Seneca – a Roman Philosopher

Lucius Seneca who lived from c. 3 BC – 65 AD was a Roman philosopher, and statesman who is most remembered today for one of his most famous letters – “On The Shortness of Life”. It’s worth reading in full some time and is just as relevant today as it was in his time.

Seneca said: “It is not that we have a short space of time, but that we waste much of it. Life is long enough, and it has been given in sufficiently generous measure to allow the accomplishment of the very greatest things if the whole of it is well invested.”

Dalai Lama – on Happiness

You may also have seen this before, arriving as an email into your Inbox, however even if it is familiar to you, the words below by the Dalai Lama – on Happiness are worth revisiting ….

The following is a brief dialogue between a Brazilian theologist Leonardo Boff and the Dalai Lama. In a round table discussion about religion the Dalai Lama was asked the question: “Your holiness, what is the best religion?”

It was thought that perhaps he might say: “The Tibetan Buddhism” or “The Oriental religions, much older than Christianity”.

Dalai Lama paused, and answered with a smile that was somewhere between wise and mischievous: “The best religion is the one that gets you closest to God. It is the one that makes you a better person.”

He was then asked: “What is it that makes me better?”

Reflection Time and Stress ReleaseHe responded:
“Whatever makes you more Compassionate, more Sensible, more Detached, more Loving, more Humanitarian, more Responsible, more Ethical.

“The religion that will do that for you is the best religion.

“I am not interested, my friend, about your religion or if you are religious or not. “What really is important to me is your behaviour in front of your peers, family, work, community, and in front of the world.

“Remember, the universe is the echo of our actions and our thoughts.

“The law of action and reaction is not exclusively for physics. It is also of human relations. If I act with goodness, I will receive goodness. If I act with evil, I will get evil.

“What our grandparents told us is the pure truth. You will always have what you desire for others. Being happy is not a matter of destiny. It is a matter of options.”

Finally he said:

“Take care of your Thoughts because they become Words.
Take care of your Words because they will become Actions.
Take care of your Actions because they will become Habits.
Take care of your Habits because they will form your Character.
Take care of your Character because it will form your Destiny, and your Destiny will be your Life … and …
There is no religion higher than the Truth.”

So Sandy, it is important to take time out and to encourage you with this, Wednesday 24th November is an international day of taking time out to meditate with meditation venues around the world opening their doors. For those of you in Sydney there are two venues which are open all day and they are at: Hyde Park Towers -148 Elizabeth Street , Sydney and Maharatta – 25 Fox Valley Rd , Wahroonga.

Seize the day!

All the best,

Sandy MacGregor


Ideas Regarding Self-Improvement

09 Aug

Ideas Regarding Self-ImprovementOne of the constants in life is change and our life experiences constantly change all of us. All of us have different life experiences with various events that happen which automatically effect and stretch us in some way and teach us assorted life lessons. We learn – mostly from negative experiences – these are our life experiences! We gradually learn to manage life’s hurdles and challenges which will be ever present. Indeed we are always learning!

Rivalry and competition are stronger in our society than ever before. New technology is with us at every turn which makes it imperative to constantly update our knowledge and skills to retain an edge for getting the work we want. Paying attention to our own self-improvement is crucial. In this way you will retain your advantage and flexibility in most circumstances.

Balance and Awareness

Having balance in your life helps to create the life you want. Recognise what you enjoy doing and what you’re good at and concentrate on refining and improving those talents.

You need to be aware of aiming for self-improvement and take steps to make it happen. You will need to find the right tools and aids to advance you along the path of self-improvement and this may take a bit of financial outlay for books, seminars or other aids.

To achieve self-improvement it is important for each of us to be responsible for our own thoughts, actions and behaviour. Furthermore we may need to relinquish or modify certain attitudes such as excessive anger, bullying, judgements and accusations.

Do You Have the Skills to Change?

Sometimes we want to and sometimes we need to change. Everyone of course is different and what approach we take to change or to handle change will vary. This deliberate change could be called self-improvement and generally there is room for self-improvement in every person’s life. A good question is – how to start?

How do people find out how and where to start? As we work towards our differing aspirations we can often realise that we don’t have the skills needed to change our life. Many people consider doing something to improve their life and because they don’t know how or where to start it becomes too easy to shelve the idea.

Look Inside and be Open to Creating Self-Improvement?

Focusing on the inner self is a good way to go. I’ll be happy when thoughts never really work – like ……….. I’ll be happy when – I get a better job, have a committed relationship – or when – something else happens in my life. Perhaps you believe that you really will be happy when – that certain something materialises. It may be your belief that being wealthy would buy you happiness – it doesn’t work. Happiness is a decision! You choose to be happy.

Of great importance is our own self-esteem, self-acknowledgement and self-love..

Do goals properly by using the subconscious mind. Setting Goals in Personal, Positive and Present Tense language and then checking all goals with SMART – that is, specific, measurable, achievable, reality and time-based when necessary is the only sensible way to achieve success.

Cultivating the self-discipline and responsibility to head in the right direction for achievement of this is important. Create good habits of positive self-talk, doing goals five times a day and making sure you actively meditate are all essentials of Self-Improvement. Know yourself, your life purpose, your aptitudes together with your special talents.

Some Ideas on How to Achieve Self-Improvement

Ideas Regarding Self-Improvement1. Find out about techniques and ways to handle difficulties and the tough times.

2. Learn to give up hatred and blame and free yourself from resentment and negative thinking.

3. Choose to be responsible for all aspects of your life.

4. Set specific, achievable goals.

5. Learn how to increase your self esteem and confidence.}

6. Learn how to be selective and say “No” when necessary to help reduce stress and look after yourself. For stress reduction ask for the help of others and practise daily meditation and healthy habits of eating and exercise.

7. Surrender graciously and adapt to those things you cannot change.

8. Developing emotional intelligence will help you to be in control of your emotions. By developing emotional intelligence it will increase your ability to understand not only yourself but other people and their feelings.

So, working towards self-acceptance and self love is a good place to start. Have faith in yourself. Focusing on self-improvement will lead you towards an improved and more contented life. Skills will be developed to assist you towards an improved lifestyle and performance. Your effect on others will be positive and you will contribute to making the world a better place.

All the best


“Your gift from God is your potential – Your gift to God is to use it.”


What We Can Do Towards Healing

07 Aug

What We Can Do Towards HealingRecently when I was reading a book about the mind (“Your Mind and How to Use It” by W.J. Ennever) I came across the following “experiment” done with a man who was suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. The man was hypnotized and the suggestion was made that his arm was being touched with a red-hot iron and that a blister would form. The doctor conducting the “experiment” actually touched him with his finger. The arm was securely bandaged and six hours later when the bandage was removed a blister had formed on the spot that the doctor had touched – it had the exact appearance of a blister produced by heat. Subsequently another part of the experiment was conducted whereby during hypnosis the patient’s arm was touched with a red-hot rod and the suggestion was given that there would be no pain. “There was no pain either then or afterwards and there was also no blistering. More detail of this experiment can be found in a volume entitled ‘Enquiry Into the Unknown’ by C.C. Seligman, M.D., FRS.” (Quote from W.J. Ennever’s book).

Of course the results from this “experiment” show that the thoughts of the hypnotized subject have a direct effect on the body – if the thought is dynamic, like that of a threatened touch from a red-hot instrument (when the actual touch was only that of a finger) then the part that was touched will take on all the signs of skin being really burned. You can of course take the power of this to its ultimate possibilities – if you have read my book “Piece of Mind” you will know what I’m talking about.

So is there a name for what we can do inside our mind when we work with healing? Yes – psycho-neuro-immunology.

The medical doctors who have made this process famous are Symington and Siegel. You may know of Bernie S. Siegel MD through his books “Love Medicine and Miracles” (1986), “Peace, Love and Healing”, “Living, Loving and Healing”. Do you spot the common word? Yes – “Love” is the quintessential to healing – or rather loving yourself – I’ll talk about that in a future EReport.

Many people have expounded in this area prior to Dr Siegel. In Australia we had the great psychiatrist Dr Ainslie Meares – at least 20 years before Siegel. My understanding is that Ian Gawler was a patient of Dr Meares and he, Ian Gawler, is doing fantastic work in this area. So is Petrea King. In 1979 Paul G Thomas in his book “Psycho Feedback” reports that the founding father was a French pharmacist, Emile Coue, who in 1870 became fascinated by the power of the mind and its relationship to health. By 1880 at his clinic in Nancy he was known for effecting ‘miraculous cures’ and even though he was an international celebrity, in 1920 he was far ahead of his time. Emile Coue’s greatest insight formalised in his book “Self Mastery Through Conscious Auto-suggestion” was ‘when the imagination and will power are harmoniously pulling in the same direction, an irresistible force is the result’

What We Can Do Towards HealingIs there any scientific proof? behind “using the mind for healing”? Yes, there is and don’t take my word for it. A “Choice” book published in 1995 called “Mind, Body, Medicine” is worth reading. The foreword is by a man I admire Professor Peter Baume AO, Head, School of Community Medicine, The University of New South Wales, and all the articles about the Mind’s Role in Illness and What You Can Do – Relaxation and Beyond are by medical doctors and researchers. Researchers have found a psycho-neuro-immunological link between levels of T-Cells (the fighting cells) and positive and negative mind state – positive mind states, meditation and laughter all increase the level of T-Cells in our immune system.

I have my own positive example which I often relate at my seminars. Some years ago now I severely burned my wrist on a barbeque. I instantly went to my Peaceful Place, let go the physical pain (the hurt) and sent “healing thoughts” to the place of the burn. I visualised my wrist as being healthy and healed. Even to me, with my already strong belief in these sorts of things, the result was quite stunning. There was barely a mark on my wrist and the healing time was very short – in fact there was not even a blister. Yes, of course there were scabs – it was a really deep burn but there was no pain.

If you or any of your friends are struggling with an illness then you could use, or suggest the use of, several techniques. One major key is to always remember that “hope” is a “live” message that we give our body (hopelessness is a die message), so becoming aware of all non-medical, non-traditional methods of healing, particularly psycho-neuro-immunology, is important as it helps to keep hope alive. The monitoring of any illness by a supportive doctor together with “second opinions” is also helpful. Becoming aware of our negative self talk and changing this to positive is all important. Using visualisation and guided imagery in the meditation state (the Theta state) to actively increase our “fighting” cells in dealing with any illness will help and know that by doing this process one will definitely relax and release stress.

That’s all for now. I hope you enjoy.

All the Best

Sandy MacGregor


What Are Others Saying?

02 Aug

What Are Others Saying?

Have you ever known what it is you want to write about but the words don’t come! That’s how I felt when I was preparing this Mind Matters News. I’ll write down what I want to write about and see where it leads me. Have you noticed the number of books which have come out following the release of that international phenomenon – “The Secret”? The book and in particular the DVD have introduced many millions (I would venture in excess of a hundred million) to the fact that each and every one of us can influence our own destiny.

The Real Secret

The real secret is not so much the Law of Attraction, as is the fact that we actually have the power!

No, that’s not what I want to write about – I have done that in Mind Matters News and this Mind Matters News. I want to draw attention to the major topic of the new books that are around in the area of personal development. The topics flirted with include personal power, happiness, who are you, passion, talent, money, keys of the Law of Attraction, and more. Most mention Purpose of Life or Life Purpose.

I started teaching about Life Purpose by conducting a 4-Day live-in Life Purpose Seminar, titled Creating Happiness Intentionally (CHI) in 1994. It was a play on the word Chi (life energy) in so far as saying we use our own energy to determine and direct us where we want to go. How do we use our own energy? By going within. How? By meditating. In this meditation state, driven by our conscious mind, we can contact our inner guidance (our Higher Self), we can work with our intuition (yes, we all do have this), we can remember significant dreams, we can ask questions and get answers. We can learn what we want to do in life.

So what?

That’s just the beginning! If you work at your goals and then use the 8-Steps of “Putting it All Together” to achieve them faster, then in what direction will you go in life? Yes, towards your goals … and what comes as a result of moving towards your goal? There is a huge sense of satisfaction and feelings of positivity … and happiness is the end result. By moving in the the direction of our goals we are getting on track! On track with what? On track with our Life’s Purpose!

So by summarising all our goals – making sure that most are in different areas of our lives so that we achieve balance and harmony, we can come up with a Life Purpose Statement. The statement itself summarises all the goals and directs you to where you want to go. Can this change? Of course it can! So I say Life Purpose Now … it’s like a 5-year plan of life.

It would be remiss of me to say life is all “beer and skittles”. It’s not! It’s full of challenges, blocks, doubts, self limiting beliefs and experiences. All the experiences are lessons for our soul. Where else do we get huge lessons from if it’s not “the bad stuff” ? This is how we learn. However, much of our belief patterns and experiences can cause traumas which we need to identify, acknowledge and learn from … and move through. They can be blocks to life’s progress and physically stop us from getting to where we want to go … if they’re not dealt with.

In 2000 I also published a book of the same name as the seminar – CHI – and the book includes all the aspects of the CHI Seminar, including the exercises and meditations. When I spent 3 months in USA in 2004 I investigated publishing books and was told that the next big topic in the Self Development world was Happiness, Life Purpose and Forgiveness. I felt as though I was on track!

Where to Find What Others are Saying

What Are Others Saying?Here are some recently published books I purchased to see what I could learn:

* “Life Lessons” – co-authored by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen and others.
* “The Passion Test” by Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood.
* “Keys to Living the Law of Attraction” by Jack Canfield (who was the author of “Chicken Soup for the Soul”) and D D Watkins.
* “Who do You Think you Are” by Keith Leon – this is 65 interview with the current greats in personal development about discovering their life purpose.
* “Money & The Law of Attraction” by Esther and Jerry Hicks which claims to be the channelled “Teachings of Abraham”.
* “Happy for No Reason” by Marcia Shimoff who was the co-author of “Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul”.

There is a veritable cornucopia of information in these books and they all cover the topic of “Life Purpose”. Are they very different from the conclusions reached in “Creating Happiness Intentionally”? Not really and actually I do think my CHI book tells “how” to arrive at Life’s Purpose.

I like this paragraph from Jack Canfield’s book “Key to Living the Law of Attraction”:

Find your purpose and passion in life.

Each one of us is born with a unique life purpose. We are all here for a reason, and we are all here to serve each other. We are like individual cells in a body, each of us performing our own unique functions and collectively serving the being as a whole. A life of purpose is not only a true expression of who you really are – it is your gift to the world – and the world needs what you have to offer. When you are living your life “on purpose,” you will find greater fulfillment and joy in all that you do. The universe will support you in all of your endeavors when you are living in alignment with your purpose, your passion, and your inner truth.


My wife, daughter, son and others have encouraged me to KISS … Keep it Simple … and brief. It’s a challenge for me as once I get “carried away”, there’s no stopping me. It’s a sad fact of modern life that we’re all ultra busy and inundated with emails and other forms of media … things to read, things to do. Time is of the most precious essence. I hope you find time to read my Mind Matters News Reports. Do I have a New Year’s Resolution? Yes … to make these Mind Matters News inspirational and pithy so that you will have the time to read them!

I am grateful for the feedback I received from my last Mind Matters News on Mental Toughness. Somebody passed this on and as a result I may be going to Switzerland next year. So please do feel free to share these Reports with others if you feel inclined to do so and I welcome your feedback.

So, I think what really matters is that we all get on track and lead a purposeful life.

Sandy MacGregor


Research is Confirming the Value of Forgiveness

26 Jul

Research is Confirming the Value of ForgivenessI get a shiver of excitement each time I see something that scientifically validates ideas that I have believed and been putting forward for quite a while now. Everyone knows by now that I am a “prove-it-to-me” type of person – thus my excitement at more proof! Remember, 25 years ago when my son Andrew used techniques to save his leg from amputation, using these same techniques today has been scientifically validated and is now called psycho-neuro-immunology. I have believed for some time that forgiveness is a prime component of happiness and can in fact lead to happiness. Now there is some compelling research, a book Dare to Forgive by Dr Edward M. Hallowell, a Harvard psychiatrist and two articles on the subject that I have seen recently, which show that the lack of forgiveness can have serious health consequences. In other words, to put it positively – Forgiveness leads to a plethora of both mental and physiological advantages. Surely happiness is the result!

Dare to Forgive

In his book Dr Hallowell, who has thoroughly researched the subject, states that learning to forgive is a process …… not a moment. Furthermore learning to forgive is as important as learning to say please and thank you. Imagine that! ……. you do forgiveness every day just as you say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’!

Dr Hallowell says research has shown that anger, worry, stress and tension lead to high blood pressure, a lowered immune system, colds, headaches, effects your sex life and all of this puts pressure on your heart. Forgiveness has a direct bearing on all of these negatives – improving all of them. He likens learning to forgive as a way of healing these negative emotions, and being of the same importance as for example somebody exercising and modifying their diet to control blood pressure.

Anger affects lung function

Dr Rosalind Wright, an assistant professor of medicine at the Harvard Medical School, did a study, the results of which were published on 31st of August 2006 (online edition of Thorax). In an article about Dr Wright’s work which Amanda Gardner wrote for Health Day Reporter, she said Hostility and anger have been strongly linked with many other health problems in older adults, including heart disease and asthma. These emotions also appear to have an impact on chronic airway obstruction, suggesting that they could also effect the lungs.

To see if there was a link between anger and hostility and a way the lungs work, Wright and her colleagues examined 670 men aged 45 to 86.

Levels of hostility, measured at the beginning of the study in 1986, averaged 18.5 points on a standard scale, with values ranging from 7 to 37 points. Lung function appeared to decline as anger numbers rose, and vice-versa.
Over the next eight years, the researchers re-calculated the men’s lung function three different times. Men who scored poorly in lung function at the beginning of the study were worse at each subsequent measurement, they said.

The above appears to be proof that carrying hostility and anger affects our own lungs. So why do it? There is a ready-made remedy, which is forgiveness and self forgiveness. I have said so many times that forgiveness is personal, no one else needs to know, and thus forgiveness is for the forgiver and not the forgiven.

Let it go.

Let it go it was an article by Kelly Baker published in the Sunday Telegraph on 15th of July 2007. It’s worth a read and you can Google it. Besides quoting Hallowell and a Sydney psychotherapist, Susannah Paterson, who extols the virtues of letting go and forgiveness, Kelly Baker writes -

Susannah Paterson says: “In our Western, capitalist society there’s so much pressure to just move on and forget” she explains. “Whether our bad experience is major or just something small, many of us are in an enormous hurry to let go. We want to get better and get back to normal, but grief is a process and it takes time to move through it.
? Many people suffer great trauma and grief and in the end all of us will experience some grief. Why? Because, unfortunately suffering is part of life. That’s something we can all think about from time to time. If we did we might find we were better able to cope when tragedy stuck.

I often say with trauma or loss or dealing with any negative experience, from ill-health to divorce, it is the negative emotions and the negative self talk that are harmful – and there is a lot of solid research to show this. When negative self talk gets a hold and becomes a habit this leads to depression. 60,000 times a day we talk to ourselves and when negative self talk becomes a habit we become unaware of it. Awareness of our thoughts is a great key – then we can do something about it.


Research is Confirming the Value of ForgivenessSo, harbouring bitterness, anger, resentment, guilt, judgments and more doesn’t help anyone. If another person is involved or has contributed to any of the above then these emotions harboured within yourself don’t have any effect on the other person. However they do have a detrimental physiological effect on you. Your health suffers and by being bitter and angry you affect others around you.

I have friends who after a trauma, particularly the death of a loved one, have ended their long marriage purely because one partner wanted to move on and the other was stuck – leading to more unhappiness as divorce is always a challenge.

Resentment and hatred experienced on a daily basis is self poisoning. The caustic anger generated will damage one’s health and relationships. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves – it is a most practical tool.

Forgiveness of others and of yourself truly can lead to happiness. Without forgiveness, sometimes true happiness can be quite elusive! In closing let me say one thing about “forgive and forget”. You cannot forget because the way memory works means that with any emotional event it is indelibly imprinted in your memory. You can dull the pain with forgiveness and smile at the memory – particularly recalling the good things.

So, know that there are good scientific and spiritual reasons to forgive. Forgiveness never condones an event, however it truly leads to happiness.

All the best,

Sandy MacGregor