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Improve Self Confidence

17 May

Learn how to improve your most important asset – self confidence. Understand the reasons for the lack of self-confidence in order to utilise the techniques for gaining your confidence.

Self-confidence is your most important asset. It is both a clear understanding of what you can do and a clear vision of what you can become.

It is therefore the basis for belief : in yourself, in what you do and in the ideas and dreams that you have. To lack self-confidence is to frustrate this process.

What Is Self Confidence?

People often say “I need more self confidence!” without noting for what reason. It is important to realise that there is often a clear reason for the lack of self-confidence and it is usually experienced (a feeling of doubt, uncertainty or even dread!) in relation to a particular area.

To explain it in another way, no person is completely lacking in self-confidence. We all have our areas of expertise (even though we may deny that!). For example, a businessman who has spent many years understanding his customer’s needs and market place may become very wealthy and very successful, and as a result of his work, have great self-confidence in his ability to conduct his business. However, if he were asked to stand on stage and talk to 1000 people about the secret of his success, he may not now feel very confident!

Comfort ZonePerhaps he now lacks confidence because he does not know what to say or how to prepare a speech. Maybe he hasn’t had any experience in speaking in front of people or such a large crowd. Whatever the reason and despite his uncertainty, if he wants to speak in front a large audience and also believes he can do it, then he will!

From this example and your own experience it is easy to see that the feelings associated with a lack of self-confidence only arise when you anticipate your current ability to perform a particular task. Every day our self-confidence is being tested and requires continuous rebuilding. This is because in pursuing our goals and in experiencing life we are always being challenged to learn new things.

When you are learning something new you are expanding your “Comfort Zone” (which is your current level of expertise and self-confidence). There is always uncertainty – “Do I understand what has been explained to me?” When you are then asked to apply what you have just learnt there is always a learning curve as you convert what has been learnt into actual experience. We can sometimes feel at “risk” of making a “mistake”, or looking like a “fool”. We can also be afraid of not being able to meet other peoples’ high expectations, or worse still our own! The weight of these fears can be overwhelming to the point that a person will simply not attempt to do something new, which is a pity as the situation can quite easily be mastered when you know how.

Improving self-confidence is therefore something which can be achieved through applying and experiencing the following process:

  1. Having the desire to achieve a goal.
  2. Identifying what you need to learn.
  3. Applying what you have learnt.
  4. Receiving feedback (then if necessary going back to step 2).

Although it is important to identify and appreciate the process by which we gain self-confidence, it does not always help us with the real issue which is our reluctance to apply it!

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Managing Stress (Improving Relaxation)

15 May

Learn about the process of “fight or flight response” originates and how it affects your body and mind. This article will provide general understanding on topic of improving relaxation and stress management.

Within your subconscious mind you retain a primitive ability to deal with every stresses in the same way. If you are threatened, your body will automatically make a dramatic shift into a heightened state of awareness by releasing adrenaline into the blood stream so that you can deal with the situation.

Scientists call this the “fight or flight response” because your body is anticipating that your reaction will be to either defend yourself or to run away from the intended threat.

Unfortunately there are situations like being caught in a traffic jam or being criticised at work where this response mechanism is activated but you are unable to deal with it effectively. Furthermore, your mind records each event which causes you stress and will automatically activate the response mechanism when you are next in that situation, or even just thinking about it! Continued stress is also linked with the physical breakdown of the body and the increased likelihood of ill health.

Is Stress A Bad Thing?

Whatever the cause, people often automatically conclude that stress is a bad thing. Do we have control over the stress in our lives? No! Stress is important as it indicates a situation to which you must respond. Stress effectively compels us to learn more about ourselves and the world around us. Our difficulty is in the way we deal with it. There are four phases of stress – we can influence the last three, but not the first:

  1. Experiencing the event.
  2. A decision as to how you will respond.
  3. The body’s reaction.
  4. A memory is formed of the stress-response.
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Overcoming Grief and Loss

08 May

Grief & loss bring out a range of complex emotions – including disbelief, shock, anger, hatred, guilt, loss of faith, fear of the future, loneliness, regret. Understand the underlying process of these emotions and natural healing techniques to help deal with grief, grief depression, and overcoming grief & loss.

Overcoming grief or grief depression over a loss of a child, family member, serious illness such as cancer, or death of a pet is a difficult process. Whether the departure of a loved one is sudden, or has been anticipated over a period of time, we experience a powerful and complex range of emotions of grief – including disbelief, shock, anger, hatred, guilt, loss of faith, fear of the future, loneliness, regret. Going through this is a normal part of the grieving process and is necessary to reconcile ourselves in some way so that we can move on from the experience to become a better, stronger person with a greater sense of purpose in life as a result.

There is no doubt that time is an important component in reconciling and overcoming grief and loss. Eventually it is important to “Let go and let God” so that we can move on with life. Unfortunately, many feel they cannot do this, that they are unable to let go of the sadness that they are experiencing. The reason for this has to do with the mechanism of the subconscious mind.

The Influence Of The Subconscious Mind

Your mind has two parts, each with separate functions: there is the conscious part, which is 12% of our mind, and the subconscious part, which is the other 88%.

The conscious part is the one we readily identify with. It is our “doing, action state”. It is what we use to perceive the world and to make decisions such as “I like this person!”.

The subconscious mind stores our memory (“the last time I saw this person we had an argument!”), habits and beliefs (“every time I think of this person I feel sad!”), personality and self-image. It also controls our bodily functions – notice you don’t have to consciously think about doing these things.

The subconscious mind retains a primitive mechanism, which records the “experience” of every situation you encounter. This is called “conditioning”. If you either anticipate (think about) or actually experience that same situation again, those previous feelings will be re-experienced emotionally in the same form, either positively or negatively. This mechanism forms part of the way we learn.

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Overcoming Anxiety & Fear

08 May

Learn about origins of Fear and Anxiety and how to over come this. We can all experience different fears and anxieties in many different ways, yet there is a common factor behind most of our fears or our anxiety – the way they are formed. Fear and Anxiety can be resolved.

Which is stronger, the power of the will or the power of the imagination? Most people think the will is stronger, but anyone who has had the experience of being overcome by fear would answer “imagination”.

Fear is the negative effect of imagination and can occur spontaneously, and against our will. We can all experience different fears and anxieties in many different ways, yet there is a common factor behind most of our fears or our anxiety - the way they are formed. Fear and Anxiety can be resolved.

The Process – How Does Fear Begin?

We are aroused by only two sensations, pain and pleasure. We all want to avoid pain and pursue pleasure. The emotional cycle which leads to fear begins in the present with our initial experience of pain or pleasure, and ends up with complex feelings which are “remembered” exclusively in the past. This cycle of emotions has been found by psychiatrists to follow the following pattern:

  1. Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
  2. Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
  3. Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety or fear.
  4. Unexpressed anger, redirected against ourselves and held within is experienced as guilt.
  5. The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.

“Hurt” is stored because the body retains a primitive subconscious ability to remember every incident that it experiences. This is called conditioning and it is part of the way we learn. These “hurt memories” do not usually form part of our everyday conscious awareness, but in fact our current action is influenced by hundreds of thousands of them! This primitive subconscious ability will remind you of a particular “hurt memory” through your feelings. Some childhood memories may be very painful and difficult to recall and may therefore be repressed.

If we encounter an incident which hurts us (slipping on a step while high on a ladder), and if we are unable to adequately understand, resolve or communicate our feelings about this incident, then it is automatically stored in the subconscious mind. If we then encounter the same or a similar incident (leaning over the edge of a tall building) at a later date, this “hurt” is automatically “recalled” by our subconscious mind. We are reminded that this incident is responsible for a “past hurt” through a change in our feelings. We will begin to feel uncomfortable, nervous, anxious, dizzy, weak, anxious. We may experience headaches, nausea or even complete paralysis. In some cases these symptoms can be experienced by just thinking about the situation!

From this example it is apparent that three skills must be learnt to overcome fear and anxiety:

Firstly, a method of releasing or handling the subconscious “hurt memories” which have been stored.
Secondly, developing self-confidence to deal with the actual situation which triggers the fear.
Thirdly, developing new responses to express the emotions that are felt when the situation recurs.

Life Skills Seminar, overcoming fear is dealt with by teaching and practising:

  1. The conscious ability to relax and release stress any time, anywhere.
  2. The ability to focus the mind.
  3. The ability to neutralise and reprogram subconscious “fear memories”.
  4. The ability to develop mind/body exercises to overcome fear.
  5. The ability to develop greater self confidence to experience the situation which is creating fear.
  6. The ability to program new responses to express emotions in that situation.
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Research is Confirming the Value of Forgiveness

06 May

I get a shiver of excitement each time I see something that scientifically validates ideas that I have believed and been putting forward for quite a while now. Everyone knows by now that I am a “prove-it-to-me” type of person – thus my excitement at more proof! Remember, 25 years ago when my son Andrew used techniques to save his leg from amputation, using these same techniques today has been scientifically validated and is now called psycho-neuro-immunology. I have believed for some time that forgiveness is a prime component of happiness and can in fact lead to happiness. Now there is some compelling research, a book Dare to Forgive by Dr Edward M. Hallowell, a Harvard psychiatrist and two articles on the subject that I have seen recently, which show that the lack of forgiveness can have serious health consequences. In other words, to put it positively – Forgiveness leads to a plethora of both mental and physiological advantages. Surely happiness is the result!

Dare to Forgive

In his book Dr Hallowell, who has thoroughly researched the subject, states that learning to forgive is a process …… not a moment. Furthermore learning to forgive is as important as learning to say please and thank you. Imagine that! ……. you do forgiveness every day just as you say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’!

Dr Hallowell says research has shown that anger, worry, stress and tension lead to high blood pressure, a lowered immune system, colds, headaches, effects your sex life and all of this puts pressure on your heart. Forgiveness has a direct bearing on all of these  negatives – improving all of them. He likens learning to forgive as a way of healing these negative emotions, and being of the same importance as for example somebody exercising and modifying their diet to control blood pressure.

Anger affects lung function

Dr Rosalind Wright, an assistant professor of medicine at the Harvard Medical School, did a study, the results of which were published on 31st of August 2006 (online edition of Thorax). In an article about Dr Wright’s work which Amanda Gardner wrote for Health Day Reporter, she said 
Hostility and anger have been strongly linked with many other health problems in older adults, including heart disease and asthma. These emotions also appear to have an impact on chronic airway obstruction, suggesting that they could also effect the lungs.
To see if there was a link between anger and hostility and a way the lungs work, Wright and her colleagues examined 670 men aged 45 to 86.
Levels of hostility, measured at the beginning of the study in 1986, averaged 18.5 points on a standard scale, with values ranging from 7 to 37 points. Lung function appeared to decline as anger numbers rose, and vice-versa.
Over the next eight years, the researchers re-calculated the men’s lung function three different times. Men who scored poorly in lung function at the beginning of the study were worse at each subsequent measurement, they said.

The above appears to be proof that carrying hostility and anger affects our own lungs. So why do it? There is a ready-made remedy, which is forgiveness and self forgiveness. I have said so many times that forgiveness is personal, no one else needs to know, and thus forgiveness is for the forgiver and not the forgiven.

Let it go.

Let it go it was an article by Kelly Baker published in the Sunday Telegraph on 15th of July 2007. It’s worth a read and you can Google it. Besides quoting Hallowell and a Sydney psychotherapist, Susannah Paterson, who extols the virtues of letting go and forgiveness, Kelly Baker writes -

Susannah Paterson says: “In our Western, capitalist society there’s so much pressure to just move on and forget” she explains. “Whether our bad experience is major or just something small, many of us are in an enormous hurry to let go. We want to get better and get back to normal, but grief is a process and it takes time to move through it.
? Many people suffer great trauma and grief and in the end all of us will experience some grief. Why? Because, unfortunately suffering is part of life. That’s something we can all think about from time to time. If we did we might find we were better able to cope when tragedy stuck.

I often say with trauma or loss or dealing with any negative experience, from ill-health to divorce, it is the negative emotions and the negative self talk that are harmful – and there is a lot of solid research to show this. When negative self talk gets a hold and becomes a habit this leads to depression. 60,000 times a day we talk to ourselves and when negative self talk becomes a habit we become unaware of it. Awareness of our thoughts is a great key – then we can do something about it.

Happiness

So, harbouring bitterness, anger, resentment, guilt, judgments and more doesn’t help anyone. If another person is involved or has contributed to any of the above then these emotions harboured within yourself don’t have any effect on the other person. However they do have a detrimental physiological effect on you. Your health suffers and by being bitter and angry you affect others around you.

I have friends who after a trauma, particularly the death of a loved one, have ended their long marriage purely because one partner wanted to move on and the other was stuck – leading to more unhappiness as divorce is always a challenge.

Resentment and hatred experienced on a daily basis is self poisoning. The caustic anger generated will damage one’s health and relationships. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves – it is a most practical tool.

Forgiveness of others and of yourself truly can lead to happiness. Without forgiveness, sometimes true happiness can be quite elusive! In closing let me say one thing about “forgive and forget”. You cannot forget because the way memory works means that with any emotional event it is indelibly imprinted in your memory. You can dull the pain with forgiveness and smile at the memory – particularly recalling the good things.

So, know that there are good scientific and spiritual reasons to forgive. Forgiveness never condones an event, however it truly leads to happiness

All the best,

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The Influence of The Subconscious Mind In Learning

06 May

How do you feel at the moment of learning something new?

Are you enthusiastic approaching a new task, confident that you will eventually overcome any initial mistakes and errors as you develop your ability? Or is your feeling about your ability to learn new things something quite different? Recent, major scientific discoveries are shedding new light on the influence of our subconscious mind on our ability to learn. More importantly, these discoveries reveal how we can successfully manage our subconscious.

The Role of The Subconscious Mind

The sub-conscious mindYour mind has two components each with separate functions. There is the conscious mind, which is 12% of our mind, and the subconscious mind, which is the other 88%. The conscious mind is the one we readily identify with; it is our “doing state” that we use to perceive the world and make decisions, such as “I need to study chemistry tonight”. The subconscious mind is responsible for storing our memory, habits, beliefs (“I always have difficulty understanding chemistry!”), personality, self-image. It also controls our bodily functions (notice you don’t have to consciously think about doing these things).

The subconscious mind is important because the body retains a primitive mechanism which has the ability to record and remember every incident that it experiences. This is called “conditioning”. It forms part of the way we learn and it enables us to perform actions habitually (without thought). Therefore if you experience enthusiasm and satisfaction while learning a new task, this mechanism will record those feelings and associate them with that task. Feelings of frustration and stress while learning are associated in the same way. When you next do that task, the subconscious association which was previously formed is automatically recalled, and re-experienced emotionally. Previous feelings of happiness and satisfaction are translated into enthusiasm, while feelings of stress, frustration give rise to reluctance, doubt, fear or anxiety.

Let’s now consider an example which illustrates the above points. Say for instance you think you are not a good learner and find it hard to study for exams. Because you find study difficult you are less likely to study and revise regularly throughout the year, because it is not an enjoyable thing to do. By avoiding regular revision you inevitably find yourself having to “cram” in the final weeks for your exam. Cramming for a subject invariably creates considerable stress, frustration and uncertainty about your true ability to pass the exam.

The subconscious mind has recorded this entire experience of study as a “remembered stress”. This “remembered stress” can accumulate and is experienced as a greater reluctance to study which constantly needs to be overcome. This is why some students who consistently place themselves under this kind of pressure find themselves unable to “face their books” or study anymore. The very thought of study subconsciously brings forward theassociated feeling of this “remembered stress” and anticipates it being experienced again. This can then lead to an inability to study effectively.

A person may have a conscious desire to perform a task, but will experience an overriding subconscious fear or reluctance to do it.

You can't drawAlthough we can become aware of our subconscious reluctance towards learning, we often have difficulty in changing the feelings that we experience. This is because our conscious desire (“I want to study”) comes up against our existing habit and belief (“I find learning chemistry frustrating!”). Therefore 12% of your mind is battling with the other 88%. If you make this a battle of conscious will, you experience stress as you fight to discipline yourself to study, enduring much pain and suffering. This is why most people procrastinate over studying.

Sub conscious mindThe conflict between the conscious and the subconscious mind is fought on an emotional level. It is a conflict which you can avoid if you understand how one mind can control the other. The student needs to learn:

  • A more effective method of study.
  • A conscious ability to motivate oneself and rebuild motivation as needed.
  • A method of “neutralising” subconscious blocks.
  • A method of reprogramming subconscious responses to learning.

In the Life Skills Seminar the ability to overcome subconscious blocks to effective learning is taught by learning and practising:

  1. The ability to relax and release stress anytime, anywhere.
  2. The ability to focus your mind so that it does not become distracted.
  3. Using the whole brain developing links and association for improved learning.
  4. Using colour and mind charting for effective learning.
  5. Developing an awareness of self talk.
  6. Mind/body exercises to overcome subconscious blocks to learning.
  7. Mind/body exercises to develop greater self confidence in your learning ability.
  8. The ability to program new responses to negative emotions experienced while learning.
  9. Proof that you are able to perform these skills through the use of bio-feedback equipment.
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Knowledge Centre – Life Changing

02 May

Why Is The Subconscious Mind Important?

The subconscious mind contains all our memory, our habits and beliefs, personality and self image. Perhaps you want to change a habit, such as smoking, or always reacting angrily when someone ‘pushes your buttons”. Maybe you wish to have better recall in exams. Or you might be challenged by low self esteem. Whatever you want to change, it is essential to change it in the subconscious mind.

But were you taught how to do that when you were at school? Were you born with a manual on how to operate your subconscious? Do you know the laws and the language of the subconscious mind? In my experience, most people answer ‘No” to those questions!

What Is The Subconscious Mind?

When you buy a computer, you acquire the hardware which is the computer screen, keyboard, disk drive and all the other bits and pieces inside. However, when you plug the computer in, it will not work without an “operating system”. The operating system is like a basic, predefined set of instructions which coordinates the use of the hardware. Once the operating system is installed, the computer comes to life and is able to perform fundamental tasks such as saving information, but more importantly, it is now able to accept further, more sophisticated programming. For instance, if you want your computer to type letters. A word processing (typing) program is required.

When you want to type a letter, you request the operating system to start this program. What then appears on the screen is a blank page, and as you type, the characters appear on the page. You may not be aware of all the billions of electronic signals which have been “programmed” by both the operating system and the word processing program to flow through the computer in a particular way so that you can type a letter. What you are consciously aware of is the image on the screen.

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Mastering Abundance and Prosperity Mindset Part 2

06 Dec

Mastering Abundance and Prosperity Mindset Part 2One of the most fantastic pieces of scientific research (reported on in Dr Joe Dispenza’s book Evolve Your Brain) is not only that cells which “Fire together will wire together” but the opposite, being – “if cells are not fired they drop away”.

Mind Ability and Research

This means that if the brain is being focussed on building new neural pathways of abundance and prosperity then gradually those neural pathways which are the negative habits – fears, doubts etc, that are not being fired – will lose their strength and eventually drop away. This means the old negative habit is no longer in control and the new positive habits have taken over. So your inner subconscious reality is now the same as your conscious reality – together they work towards achieving your goal.

A good statement is “Energy Flows Where Energy Goes” – it is particularly apt when working with goals which include dropping negative habits. Have you heard that “a habit is when the body has taken over from the mind”. Think about it for a moment! You never “think about carrying out a habit – you just do it!” Your body is doing it automatically with no thought involved. If your thoughts are “I am not worthy or don’t deserve prosperity” then your body will immediately carry out acts that will sabotage prosperity no matter if your conscious goal contains the words “I deserve prosperity”. You see, your subconscious mind hasn’t got the the new goal yet – the neural pathway has not yet been formed; thus the subconscious sabotage – action by the body – takes over.

The Power of Attention

Wikipedia explains Hebbian Learning  as “associative learning”, in which simultaneous activation of cells leads to pronounced increases in synaptic strength between those cells. Hebbian theory is a scientific theory in biological neuroscience (synaptic plasticity) which explains the adaptation of neurons in the brain during the learning process.

Said more simply by John Assaraf “your attention plays a large role in directing the flow of energy and information in your brain. And as energy flows where your attention habitually goes, the synaptic connections energized by your habitual attention eventually become more or less chemically hardwired into your neural networks.”

The Power of Attention (what we say, how we act, how we emotionalise, our self talk, what we think, what we visualise) is paramount. Remember Earl Nightingale – The Dean Of Personal Development? He stated in his book “You become what you think about most.”

The Correct Vision is Paramount

 “Financial Wealth” has gradually been altered to “abundance and prosperity”.  After all if you are abundant in things such as health, love, relationships, money, happiness and more, then it means you have enough and don’t need any more.

The correct vision helps you to stay focused and positive. Here are some questions to answer (there are no correct answers) to help you find the right vision and to help identify mental blocks:

What brings you the most joy, fulfilment and freedom?
If you had all the time and money you could want and had no fear, what would you do?
What significant contribution do you offer?
What does abundance and prosperity mean to you?
Why do you want abundance and prosperity?
What will abundance and prosperity do for you?
Are you abundant and prosperous within yourself?
Do you deserve abundance and prosperity?
Do you or can you see yourself as abundant and prosperous?

The CHI Seminar And More On Life Purpose

The “Creating Happiness Intentionally” – CHI – is a “live in” Seminar held over 5 days and 4 nights. One of the main purposes is to create, and know it’s right for you, a Life’s Purpose Statement. It is all allied with Abundance and Prosperity and when you consider everything that is important in your life (including blocks and your own life traumas) it can not be done satisfactorily in under 5 days. This MMN deals with a part of it – namely Abundance and Prosperity, however there is always some crossover. After all, as the Cheshire cat says to Alice as she asks for directions in Wonderland, ‘If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there’. It is essential to know where you’re headed otherwise how will you know when you get there? Hence a Vision or A Life Purpose Statement.

John Assaraf works in the Personal Development field and talks about “Vision” this way: “Many ‘successful’ people still feel empty. They have the outer riches, but not the inner ones.

The movie, ‘Bedazzled’, comically illustrates this point when the main character repeatedly receives his wildest wishes, but he still feels frustrated and disappointed. This is our inner child speaking: a tiny little ego shaped by cultural norms and childhood fantasies.

Heart desires, on the other hand, express our deepest truths and passions. They express a fervour so powerful and invigorating that their fulfilment becomes more a matter of glorious obsession rather than ‘work’ or ‘striving.’

In fact, it’s the profound emotional weight and meaning of such a vision that can transform us in the NOW, making us happy NOW rather than hoping we’ll become happy when we reach that elusive ‘financial success’ we believe will finally make us happy.”

Mastering Abundance and Prosperity Mindset Part 2

If You Desire To Change Your Financial Paradigm

Then you may need to:

  • Make decisions about yourself, your business and your finances,
  • Clearly define your goals,
  • Observe your thoughts, habits and beliefs at all times when awake,
  • Keep notes about things not serving you,
  • Replace negative neural pathways with ones that serve you,
  • Consciously focus on positive empowering thoughts,
  • Resolve to change your conscious and subconscious negativity.

What Must You Do To Achieve Success

The great thing about this is that you have some assistance. Science itself has overwhelming proof that you can rewire your brain. This means you can, with specific methods which will be shown in two CDs or downloads, build and strengthen neural pathways which control all your financial decisions and executive thinking. Both your conscious and subconscious mind will be on the same track. You will increase your Financial Self Image which may have been holding you back (you can never outperform it).  Here is a list of “musts”:

  • What will achieving your Prosperity and Abundance Goals do for you? You can achieve these goals using the 8 step goal system which includes building and using your Emotional Anchor.  You move from just “setting the goal” to building a neural pathway which helps you to achieve your goals. You plant the goal within the subconscious mind and this builds a neural pathway. You can do this because the subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between imagination and reality. All this is done whilst you are in the stress releasing brain wave state of Alpha.
  • Use visualization to your advantage by imagining yourself (using your 5 senses and self-talk) living the life you deserve and care to live – stress-free and financially abundant.
  • Retrain your brain to rid yourself of neural pathways that hold you back (your behaviours, limiting beliefs and negative habits) and cultivate new neural pathways that increase Prosperity and Abundance.
  • You banish self-doubt and step into your strength.
  • When will your habits stop working against you? When you have new habits, through constructing new neural pathways in your mind. With repetition, visualization, self-talk and emotion – all applied in the alpha and theta brainwave states you achieve this. When your conscious mind is aligned with (on track with) your subconscious mind, you attract the success you deserve.

Some Spiritual Aspects To Think About

There is enough for all – so an attitude of gratitude is in harmony with  infinite supply. Thanking Spirit, the Universe, God or whoever you thank for the abundance in your life, for your experiences and the people in your life is a great start.

With the act of letting go your blocks, negative habits or limiting beliefs you make space not only to receive but the joyful act of giving is a corollary.

We have many challenges in life. Why are they sent to us? To learn from – these awarenesses are “lessons for our soul”. So don’t fight or become a victim of your life’s challenges – a great attitude is to embrace them while you learn from them. You can go through them.

John Roger – a Spiritual Teacher and founder of www.msia.com says “When you go out in the world to ‘get’ things, you are operating from lack. You are saying ‘I don’t have this within me, so I have to find someone to give it to me’. If you know that you are the source, you would not operate from lack”.

So, whilst attitude, Life Purpose and goals are all important on your journey towards Abundance and Prosperity, remember, for whatever wealth goals you are setting yourself you add the words ‘for the Highest Good of all concerned’. Once again it is a Spiritual concept which is self explanatory.

All the best

Sandy

“Your gift from God is your potential – Your gift to God is to use it.”

PS The Wealth Pack (including explanation, goals and meditations) is available to buy from the CALM Shop both as a download and also as two CDs.

The Next Seminar is Creating Happiness Intentionally. 

BALI CHI Seminar. If you know your Life’s Purpose and you work towards it, being GOAL directed, then you will only have success in Creating Happiness for yourself. Have a look at www.lifepurpose.com.au, do the exercises, read the testimonials and then book for the next one in Bali or in Sydney. Remember for repeaters it is half price!

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Mastering Abundance and Prosperity Mindset Part 1

04 Dec

Mastering Abundance and Prosperity Mindset Part 1

This includes considering your beliefs, values, understandings, expectations, intentions, decisions, and other internal structures of your mind that make up your wealth reality, before you even look at money – and the great thing is that you can Retrain your Brain to achieve what you desire.

 It is now known that you can build new neural pathways in your brain with constant focus. The most efficient way of achieving change is with meditation using guided imagery and visualisation – and now scientists have strongly suggested that this can be applied to financial success.

In their book, How God Changes Your Brain, researchers Andrew Newberg – neuroscientist, and Mark Robert Waldman – therapist, have shown that in their words:  “the more you meditate on a specific object—be it God, or peace, or financial success—the more active your thalamus becomes, until it reaches a point of stimulation where it perceives thoughts in the same way that other sensations are perceived.” In other words, until it becomes part of your Comfort Zone and your reality. The aim, for those wishing to achieve financial success, is to visualise financial success clearly in your mind so that this vision actually changes your brain.

This Mind Matters News and the next one are about increasing Abundance and Prosperity and address the mental barriers and subconscious limiting beliefs holding us back from achieving this.  The Wealth Pack (including explanation, goals and meditations) is available to buy from the CALM Shop both as a download and also as two CDs.

We Can Easily Sabotage Ourselves

If our mind is filled with fears, doubts, expectations, intentions, values and beliefs that contradict any financial goal we have then this will directly affect any financial outcome. You can experience fears of success or failure, trying and failing, not being good enough – all causing stress and anxiety. All this negativity which is deeply embedded in the subconscious mind will behave as negative habits and sabotage us in our endeavours. We need to change our inner paradigm to be able to change our outer financial reality.

Some Limiting Personal Beliefs Can Help To Create Poverty Seminar 

•  It takes money to get money          •  Best things in life are free

•  Money is the root of all evil             •  Money = too much responsibility

•  I am not worthy                                    •  Takes hard work to earn money

•  Can’t take it with you                          •  Money isn’t everything

•  Need training / education                •  Money isn’t spiritual

•  Can’t buy love                                        •  My karma is to be poor

•  A Camel cannot pass through the eye of a needle

Think about your business for a moment. Is working harder and longer the key to being more financially successful? You will probably answer “No” – but what do you really believe? If your subconscious mind really believes you need to work harder, then guess what – that’s what you will consistently do in an effort  to be more financially successful.

Your Upbringing

What about your upbringing and your parents’ thoughts about money! Research has shown that if you have (or had) parents or grand-parents who were brought up in the Depression and had the attitude of “never spend money until you have it to spend” that the offspring (and their offspring) would do one of two things: either reject what they were taught and do the extreme opposite –  having as many credit cards as possible – or never spend money until they had it to spend. There seemed to be no middle ground. I am reminded of that often made statement to children “we can’t afford it”! You can see the consequences of that statement.  A better answer is “we choose not to buy that right now”.

Remember that your conscious mind acts upon what you have in the subconscious – so it will form evidence and opinions – which support the subconscious beliefs, even though you don’t want the belief. Once you have a belief embedded in the subconscious, which then is deep in your memory, you will act on it – just like a habit – until you have changed the neural pathway and the memory.

In John Assaraf’s words, we all have C.R.A.P. –  Conflicts, Resistance, Anxiety, And Other Problems like procrastination and pessimism. Is it easy to change and can we do it? – Yes – Sandy has been teaching this since 1989 and tens of thousands of people have successfully learned the techniques. Is there resistance to change?  Of course  –  what is  procrastination  and  pessimism if it is not resistance?  Remember, the job of the subconscious mind is “to keep you where you are”, that is with all the habits and beliefs that you have right now. So, of course it will fight our every effort to achieve success. However with the mind in the Alpha and Theta state using goals and meditation we can succeed in changing the old neural pathways to be the ones we want.

What Are You Worth?

How much money per year do you believe you are worth? Is it $50,000 or $100,000 or more? If you have a defined figure, know that implicitly your brain will keep you there. It will not be interested in any actions that suggest that you are worth more or make more. Neural Resonance is when your conscious mind (12%) and your subconscious mind (88%) are in sync with each other – this means your brain is working for you and not in conflict. So what is the best course of thought as far as your earning power is concerned? Don’t have a ceiling that sells you short!

Neuroscience research has confirmed that if you have a ceiling as to your ability to make money this very fact is sufficient to make you feel stuck. John Assaraf calls this your “Expectancy Point.”

Your “Expectancy Point”

Assaraf says “One of the most fascinating discoveries in brain research is that over time, deep within your implicit brain, you develop your own personal ‘Expectancy Points,’ such as where you ‘expect’ your income to be, the kind of car you expect to drive, whether you expect to have a lifestyle of luxury or more-of-the-same, even things such as your ‘normal’ weight, whether you expect to live past a certain age and the dynamics of your relationships.”

Mastering Abundance and Prosperity Mindset Part 1There is not much sense in having an ‘expectancy point’ which doesn’t serve you if you don’t want to maintain your current ‘normal’ level.  If you attempt only consciously to increase your expectancy point you will continue to be dragged back to what has been until now your ‘normal’ level.  Why?  Because your subconscious mind with its neural pathway of your ‘normal’ level drags you back again and so you feel trapped!  You have probably been using all sorts of beliefs, habits and oh-so-many excuses to maintain your ‘expectancy point’, yet this is all done unconsciously as it is within your comfort zone.  Your conscious mind might try to argue that of course you want a higher expectancy point but really it is your so much more powerful subconscious mind which is driving you.

Can this be changed? Can you prevent your “expectancy point” from holding you back? Absolutely! You have the ability to use neuroscience to your advantage and put in a new neural pathway – and hence increase your ceiling – work towards a new “expectancy point” in your subconscious which, when you think like that, will also be in your conscious mind.  Both your minds are then on the same track!

The word “Abundance” has been used deliberately. As has been stated before, when we are abundant, we have enough. It can be applied to many things in life – love, money, health, relationships, humour, compassion, to name a few. It can often be in conflict with “money” and that is why it is important to have a life purpose and work towards that purpose with balanced goals (not all the effort going on money) then you will truly Create Happiness Intentionally. That is the purpose of the CHI 5 day/4 night live in Seminar.

So, know that whatever negative habits, limiting beliefs, lack of self-worth, inherited challenges or low expectancy points you may have, in working towards Abundance and Prosperity, there is a scientifically proven way of changing these negative neural pathways and establishing new ones which will assist you.

All the best

Sandy

“Your gift from God is your potential – Your gift to God is to use it.”

PS The Wealth Pack (including explanation, goals and meditations) is available to buy from the CALM Shop both as a download and also as two CDs.

The Next Seminar is Creating Happiness Intentionally.

BALI CHI Seminar. If you know your Life’s Purpose and you work towards it, being GOAL directed, then you will only have success in Creating Happiness for yourself. Have a look at www.lifepurpose.com.au, do the exercises, read the testimonials and then book for the next one. Remember for repeaters it is half price!

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Examples Of What I Call Leadership

30 Nov

As you may know I am the Honorary Colonel of the University of New South Wales Regiment (UNSWR) which I commanded from Feb 1978 to Feb 1981. Being the Honorary Colonel means that I am like the Grand-Father of the Regiment. As such I am called upon to officiate in various ways from time to time. I was called upon to give the Toast To The Regiment at the annual UNSWR Regimental Dinner on 4 Dec 2009.

Leading up to the Toast I gave a speech – the subject was Leadership. It is as well to know that the main role of UNSWR is to produce officers for the Army Reserve. There always seems to be constraints of resources – mainly money - on the Army Reserve and yet they are increasingly called upon for service overseas. Right now there are enormous fiscal restraints brought about by the $20 billion cutback on Defence.

Here Is The Speech I Gave

Recently I was invited to talk to all the soldiers in 3 Combat Engineer Regiment (CER) at TULLY in Northern Queesland on Mental Toughness (which was the subject of one of my M M News Reports)

Amongst many things I talked about were:

1. Victor Frankl and his research on survivors of the holocaust.
Of the people who were not actually murdered, the ones who had goals, who had a family they knew they had to survive for and those who had a great purpose, tended to be the ones who withstood enormous difficulties and survived.

2. Nelson Mandela – who was incarcerated for 27 years in South africa.
He established the Truth and Reconciliation Commission (TRC) and he only had words of forgiveness for his former enemies.

3. Douglas Sanderson
A story about one of my soldiers in 3 Field Troop Engineers in Vietnam which I commanded in 1965-66.

Douglas Sanderson RAE

Doug Sanderson was a Lance Corporal in the Royal Australian Engineers (RAE) and his No2 (we always worked in pairs when supporting the Infantry on Operations) was evacuated back to base camp – so Doug was on his own on an operation supporting the infantry.  Doug suffered from claustrophobia. In the operation an armed wounded enemy was seen disappearing down a tunnel entrance. Doug was called upon to get him out – it was his job. Doug went down the tunnel alone, located the enemy (who had a rifle), donned his tear gas mask and then threw a tear gas grenade. The enemy was neutralised and coughing, spluttering and with blinding tears, emerged to the surface. It was not until November 2009 that I asked Doug how he did it. Doug said “ I told myself that I had to do it – it was my job. I then pictured, imagined and told myself that I was crawling on the surface of the earth with plenty of air to breathe (when I was down in the tunnel).” What a wonderful example of mental toughness achieved through focused concentration and visualisation. I recommended Doug for a bravery award however it didn’t happen.

I call this leadership!

Lieut Colonel Rupert Hoskin

Rupert is the Commanding Officer (CO) of 3 CER. One of his tasks was to make ready and sign off on whether his soldiers (sappers) are thoroughly prepared to go to Afghanistan.

In one of his recent reports he said that some of his sappers’ lives would be lost because they had not been able to train on some specialised IED equipment.

Sappers in Vietnam had the greatest number of casualties per % of soldiers in-country in the Vietnam war and our government’s strict instruction was to design operations which avoid loss of life. You can imagine that not only did this report go right to the top, the Chief of the General Staff, but to the Defence Minister.  Col Hoskin got the equipment he needed because of his fearless advice.

I call this leadership!

I Now Refer to Recent Studies

On the Secrets Of Military Leadership in Nov 2009
A survey by the Harvard Kennedy School’s Center for Public Leadership shows Americans have significantly higher confidence in military leaders than leaders in government, business and the media. Snippets from the Report include:

Professor Todd Henshaw who previously directed the leadership program at the U.S. Military Academy at West Point.
Leadership is about leaving it all on the field rather than taking it off the table. This is a core tenet of military leadership, and it’s ingrained in the culture of each military service. During his time in the Army, he witnessed good and bad leaders, people who empowered or micromanaged, and leaders who had strategic vision or demonstrated an inability to think “out of the box.” But one consistency across this very large population of military leaders was the notion of serving: service to others in their charge, service to the unit in which they served, and ultimately service to the nation through duty and sacrifice.

Ed O’Malley is President and CEO of the Kansas Leadership Centre
He said – perhaps we trust the military more because it delivers on its broad promise to the American people. We ask the military to keep us safe, and they deliver. We ask government to solve tough issues like lax regulation of Wall Street and government dithers. We ask media to shoot straight and then media bias, on all sides, is so evident. We ask big business to steward the economic promise of America and then find ourselves bailing out billionaires.

Colonel Mike Haith is the manager of Leadership Training at Whitney, Bradley and Brown, Inc
One of the earliest lessons of effective leadership is to share the dangers and hardships of subordinates; never to ask them to take risks you are unwilling to share. At the end of the day when others are tired, cold, wet, hungry and possibly dispirited and near defeat, tend to their needs before your own, prepare for the challenges of the next day, and provide inspiration and hope when there may be little reason for hope.

Ronald Heifetz, the founding director of the Center for Public Leadership
General Eric Shinseki represented the model of military integrity in the winter and spring of 2003 when he cut against the grain of his boss, Donald Rumsfeld, to give his best judgment to Congress and the American people. He stated that the Iraqi war effort was more than a military procedure, that to secure the country after the “war” and create sufficient stability to enable peace would require two to three times as many troops as the administration wanted to accept. He was fired for speaking up, but the lesson was not lost on the American people.

Sapper Coolburra’s Funeral

After the Tully exercise, the very next day 12 tired soldiers were providing a military presence at the funeral of Sapper Coolburra (one of my soldiers in Vietnam) on Palm Island.  After the 5 hour funeral the CO Colonel Hoskin, the RSM, myself and a driver from the Island who was the Superintendant of the hospital offered us a beer on the way to the Wake.  I said “yes” – we had just been talking about it.  We stopped for the beer and the CO and the RSM (Regimental Sergeant Major – the senior non-commisioned officer in 3CER) said “no”. I asked why? Rupert Hoskin explained that his sappers won’t be able to have a beer on the island.  Think about this!  His sappers would not even have known – but of course the CO and the RSM would have known.  (The sappers made up for it on the way back on the ferry.)

I call this leadership.

The Regiment Produces Leaders

I was talking to the Commander of 2nd Division, General Williams, a little while ago about recruiting. He informed me that there are enormous numbers of people applying to get into the Reserve and yet the Army Reserve total numbers are dwindling.

You, the Regiment members, may know that recruitment has been in the hands of civilians for the last few years and the average time it takes to get an officer cadet into UNSWR is from 6 to 12 months – by that time most are gone.

I am happy to say to you that the Commanding Officer of the Regiment is leading. He has taken on the enormous challenge of recruiting.  The Regiment is now going to actively recruit.

There is talk of combining UNSWR and SUR (Sydney University Regiment)! Can you imagine?  I can’t – it would fly in the face of history and tradition! Leaders, I’m sure, will come to the fore.

The Regiment continues to produce leaders of great quality.

I now ask you to charge your glasses and be upstanding for a toast to the “The Regiment”.

So, you may recognise that the true story about Douglas Sanderson is what I teach about - using the power of thesubconscious mind deliberately – 2 Day Seminar. I would like you to know about my Leadership Website - you could forward it to some companies or corporations if you are so moved. I believe in Personal Leadership and this starts with using the personal power of the subconscious mind deliberately.

All the Best
Sandy MacGregor

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